You Are Man Enough

‘Man Up!’ That’s often the last thing a guy will hear before any number of irresponsible or reckless acts. Is masculinity measured by how well you can hold your drink or if you can get some girl’s number? Or is it about chivalry, hard work and taking care of the family? Often we find that society’s definition of being a man conflicts with the one we find in church. But, since we are all made in God’s image, the exploration of one’s own masculinity should be a way by which one can come closer to God and not further away. Here are two outlooks that help us keep things in check:

Let Go

Feminism has helped to expose false presumptions on what it means to be a woman, but it also exposed the shackles that society can also place on men. Guys are told to ‘be a man’ and any display of emotion can be seen as ‘weak,’ ‘feminine’ or ‘unmanly,’ which is insulting to both sexes. The result can be that men find it hard to let go emotionally and can keep unresolved feelings inside. Yet an emotional understanding of God is a huge aspect of faith. It helps us empathise with others and God’s heart.

For men, it is important to know that there are times when it is okay to express emotions and struggles. Community entails sharing each other’s burdens, but often men feel they are expected to handle everything singlehandedly and this can disregard the fact that God often sends people to help us with our challenges. The expression of emotions help us feel understood, that we are not alone and that we are cared for.

You Are Enough

While growing up men can often feel the constant need to prove themselves. In their younger years it might be through physical strength or sporting ability and as they age it can often be tied in with professional life. Often society can place far too much emphasis on career or salary and less focus on God, family and relationships. While both aspects of our lives shouldn’t be forgotten, it’s important to keep the balance right.

Church is often a great means of connecting to the higher purposes in life and a way to put our current situations into a greater perspective. It is a safe haven where we can worship with strangers and feel comfortable in expressing our innermost feelings. In religious communities we can connect with the unconditional nature of God’s heart and this can teach us one important lesson: as children of God we are always enough. While it brings God joy to see us excel in our lives, work or studies, God also wants us to know that He always loves us.

In times of difficulty or challenge, it is important to keep that in mind and remember that the oppressive shackles that society might impose on us are often artificial. In harder times, the knowledge of God’s love and our gratitude towards God will often serve as the key catalyst that helps us get through the challenging moments and into times of success.

Do you feel social expectations might hinder your life of faith? How have you been able to see past this and connect to God? Let us know in the comments below!